Attention checks
- Would I notice if you went quiet for a few days?
- Do I keep promises even when they're inconvenient?
- Would I defend you if someone talked about you unfairly?
- Can you trust me with a secret that's not mine to share further?
- Would I show up if you needed help moving something heavy?
- Do I remember the details you casually mention once?
- Would I tell you the truth even if it's awkward?
- Am I the friend who checks in after something big, or waits?
- Would I cancel a low-stakes plan to support you on a hard day?
- Do I celebrate your wins as loudly as my own?
Trust signals
- Would I keep your confidence if other friends pressed me?
- Am I consistent, or do I disappear when life gets busy?
- Would I admit I was wrong without making it weird?
- Do I listen first, or jump straight to fixing?
- Would I stick up for you in a group chat drama?
- Can you count on me to reply when it actually matters?
- Would I respect a boundary the first time you set it?
- Am I the friend who follows through on "we should hang"?
- Would I share credit when we did something as a team?
- Do I make space for your opinions even when I disagree?
Real-life habits
- Would I notice you're struggling before you say it out loud?
- Am I careful with jokes when you're already stressed?
- Would I introduce you proudly to people I care about?
- Do I keep score in friendships, or let small things go?
- Would I help you practice for something without judging?
- Am I honest about my availability instead of ghosting?
- Would I check that you got home safe after a late hangout?
- Do I include you when plans grow beyond just us?
- Would I keep a surprise you're planning for someone else?
- Am I someone you'd call before making a big decision?
Hard test mode
- Would I remember an important date you mentioned months ago?
- Do I treat your time as valuable as mine?
- Would I say sorry properly instead of brushing it off?
- Am I the friend who makes new people feel welcome around us?
- Would I support a goal of yours even if I don't fully get it?
- Do I keep private chats private when gossip starts?
- Would I show up for a boring-but-important thing with you?
- Am I reliable when plans need a calm person in charge?
- Would I give you credit for an idea you shared with me?
- Do I make friendship feel safe, not like a test you can fail?
Related
FAQs
What is a friendship test question?
A prompt designed to score how well someone knows your habits, boundaries, and patterns — not just your favourite colour.
What is the balanced starter pack?
A recommended set of ten prompts mixing attention, trust, and hard-mode checks so the test is fair.
Is this the same as a how-well-do-you-know-me quiz?
Close cousins. This page leans evaluative (“test”), while the how-well library leans knowledge-check variety.
